've sort of decided that the anticipation of
not yet available
or liking a girl, or of meeting "someone special" is probably about 10 times better than the actual experience. Chalk that up to hollywood and one too many John Cusack movies. Maybe I'll define a whole new dating methodology centered around "anticipatory dating." Basically, you never actually do anything more than put yourself in the same location at the same time as someone who you're attracted to. That's it. That's your date, and pretty much your whole relationship. Maybe you talk, but it's not recommended. Generally it revolves around not bothering the other person with your problems. The best way to do that is to not interact with them at all. And check out the benefits: No messy break-ups, no let-downs when you figure out you're incompatible. It's the ultimate "what if" dating style.
Given this new definition for dating, I've been out several dozen times now with Lady Latte at the coffee shop. Our "dates" are pretty short, and usually I'm giving her money (which some people might misconstrue), but I alwasy leave with a warm drink. How many of you get change and a frothy warm drink at the end of each your dates? Yeah, that's what I thought.
There's no way I could actually get along with her (or vice versa) nearly as well as we get along by not knowing anything about each other than what I drink in the morning.
Of course, this whole theory has come about for two reasons a) I had a second date with Curly last night, and it went okay, but I think that might be our last date. And b) I went to get coffee this morning, and the Mocha Mistress had her hair down, and looked pretty darn cute, and the most I could manage was a mumbled comment about how nice her hair looked. Then I grabbed my mocha, and headed for the door.
As a side note, the guy who made the mocha today forgot the mocha, and I can't handle mocha-less mocha, so I had to go get it fixed, and thus actually missed TWO opportunites to talk to this girl. But again, I'm pretty sure the misery of not talking to here beats the misery of things not working out if I did. So by that measure, we're doing great. =)
How's everyone's weekend shaping up?