kay, so I still get occasional mail from these online singles places, yes? no? Okay, yes, I do, so don't argue.
Yeah, well, I'm pretty upfront about the fact that I really don't date more than one person at a time, and that means I'm just hanging out with 003, and that's pretty much the end of the story. Fair enough. I've gotten a variety of responses from this approach (it's not really an "approach" per se, though, because I'm more or less saying no...), mostly they say things along the lines of "thanks for being honest, write me if things don't work out." Which is both nice and a bit depressing.
Anyway, I had one girl write who sent me no info about herself, and had no profile or picture listed on the web site that she found my profile on (I'm down to two of those now, I think...).
Here's my response (the gist, at least):No filter found for insertQuoteSo I responded with my typical "Sorry, bad timing, met someone, etc etc."
Right, so here's the response I got:No filter found for insertQuoteSo she basically read me the riot act for asking for more info, and heaven help us, her picture. Well, I did respond to her, if only to set her straight, and the letter is a work of verbal kung-fu I'm quite proud of. That's not the point. The point is MOST people respond positively to being told your situation up front.
Case in point. The same thing happened with another girl, and we've actually exchanged several e-mails now, mainly because there's no pressure to establish a date or anything beyond e-mail correspondence. To that end, she actually sent me a picture, which had two No filter found for popLocalImage in it, and asked me to guess which one was her. I refused to guess (you get in trouble doing that), and she made some joke about a two headed monster with a floral chin in her next message.
Enter Photoshop and a quick search for an image related to the word "hydra" on the web. What luck! I find this No filter found for popLocalImage illustration. With some slight modification, we bring the two together to get No filter found for popLocalImage! And that, my friends is how to really win the ladies; turn them into mythological multi-headed monsters, and they're yours forever.